Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Live for the Moments

Why are moments best when they come unexpectedly?

Like a present concealed in pretty wrapping paper, momentous because you've long accepted that birthday gifts are a thing of childhood.

Like a sunset and cool breeze on a hectic work week, allowing you to pause, breathe and remind you that you're more than your daily routine.

Like sitting in a theater and not knowing what you'll watch, and having the dialogues, the set, the sounds fire up your senses.

Like a string of songs that you actually know playing on the radio; one after the next, as if someone cued the whole soundtrack to your adolescence.

Like bumping into an old friend; unplanned, you rush out of the conversation, but the quick exchange leaves your heart overflowing.

Like dreaming and working and planning, and while you're so busy building your life, someone takes you by the hand and lays the world open before you.

Like a breakthrough that only YOU know, the kind that can only result from the conscious decision, everyday, to keep working at it 1 million times.

Like a split-second of inspiration that draws out into an hour, into days, into years.

One that sends tingles down your spine, and catches you smiling by yourself like a madman.

It leaves you with that teeny, tiny bit of grit.

Those small, fleeting moments.

Though far and few in between.

They make this 700,800* hours worth living.

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*Average number of hours in a lifespan according to this website
**Post inspired by my impromptu late afternoon coffee break with my favorite non-human



Sunday, June 7, 2015

A Different Indulgence

I shut my eyes, trying to pull out the right words from my vocabulary closet, but each shelf just seemed short of stock. We were given ten minutes to write a headline, and eight minutes through, my broken paragraphs were riddled with strikethroughs and arrows.

My thoughts kept jumping from my unfinished paragraph, to the exercise instructions, to the tips given in the past 5 hours, then back to the messy Cattleya sheet in front of me. Before I knew it, the ten minutes was up. I fell victim to the all-too-common compulsion to overly self-edit.

I felt pretty bad to not finish, mainly because I wanted to subject myself to the critique of the workshop facilitators. But as several classmates read their headlines to the crowd, the pointers I picked up proved equally applicable to my own mistakes.

Such as creating the distinction between merely describing a series of activities versus really lighting up a vivid image in the reader’s mind. Using short, punchy sentences to make a clear and striking statement (ouch, this one really hit me). And always challenging yourself with the question, “WTF should I read your article?”

These, among many other lessons, were what I took home from the Travel Writing Workshop by Writer’s Block Philippines. Theirs was one of the top results when I Googled for writing workshops in Manila, and one month later, I am a proud recipient of a certificate. More than that, I left the auditorium carrying a bundle of inspiration to just keep writing and – who knows – maybe make a decent career out of it! (Guys, they say dream big, diba?!)

Dreaming big starts here!

Being QC-born and bred, my life revolves around this retracted national capital. Then ever since I started working in Quezon City, and later on, my husband as well, I had fewer reasons to brave EDSA and C5. I tended to coast within my comfort zone, which is, ironically, the “killer highway” that is Commonwealth Avenue.

But this particular Saturday, a fellow QC-buddy obliged me on my invitation to cross cities for an afternoon of learning how to write. Being the QC-girls that we were, we wanted to maximize our “road trip” to The Fort and decided to drive out earlier. The workshop wasn't scheduled until 1pm, so our day began at 10am by checking out the street art put up as part of The Bonifacio Arts Foundation’s (BAFI) ONE Festival.

Now I hardly know anything about street art. But I suppose that’s why initiatives like these are so important. How else are we to know that such a scene even exists if these works are not put in highly-visible places? How can we appreciate all the hard work that is put into creating these murals, if we only see them in pictures? Because it was one thing to see them on my social media feeds, and another to really stand in front of them and take in the details. The sheer size of some of them is enough to blow you away.

Artwork by Nate Frizzell (1 of 3).  His real-life looking characters are located on the walls of  the High Street shops, this one beside the glass window of ROX.

Artwork by AKA Corleone.  His bold and bright images surely bring life to this dead 28th Avenue parking lot wall (near Muji).

Artwork by FAILE. Their huge collage of mass culture icons can be found on the wall of One Global Place building, corner of 5th and 26th Avenues.

Artwork by Cyrcle. That's me running to take my picture under this huge, intricate man from outer space, at the wall of Icon Plaza building, corner of 7th and 26th Avenues.

I laud BAFI for this effort. It may take a while before public art becomes a priority of land property developers, but through baby steps like these, I do hope more Filipinos gain an appreciation for it, so that more street artists are given proper credit for what they do.

So did I mention that it was a day-long field trip? After my friend and I drenched ourselves in sweat on the sidewalks of BGC, we had our lunch and travel writing workshop, which ended at 6pm. The last stop for the day was at Christ’s Commission Fellowship (CCF) Frontera Verde, Pasig City, where we sat in on an Apologetics discussion group.

To those not familiar, Apologetics is a branch of Christianity that deals with defending the faith through a more rational manner, usually through historical evidence and philosophical arguments. The “life verse” – or the go-to verse for inspiration and direction – of CCF’s Apologetics group is 1 Peter 3:15 from the Holy Bible which reads,
"But sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence."
That evening, the group was on the topic of church abuse. They discussed possible ways to defend Christianity against the criticism it has on abuses that happen within the community, or how to react to a person who has lost trust in the faith due to church-related abuses.

What I found most reasonable out of all the opinions thrown around is the position that we must always look to the character of Jesus Christ. If a person claims to be of supposedly-solid Christian faith, particularly church leaders, but does not act in accordance with Jesus Christ’s character, then the error is not in Jesus Christ or the Christian faith, but in how that person follows (or rather, fails to follow) the faith.

We cannot expect a man, even if he is a prominent figure in the church, to fully represent or to be an embodiment of the all-perfect Jesus Christ, because he is only man. And man is of sinful nature (Romans 3:23 NIV: for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God), with tendencies to falter.

A person who abuses is not doing a sinful act because s/he is a Christian. He does it because s/he is a sinful person, as all of us are.

In a more practical illustration, we cannot expect one man to represent an entire church. I would look at it, simply, as never generalizing one man to exactly represent the thoughts and beliefs of all the members of whatever organization s/he belongs to.

Needless to say, there are a lot more nuances to this heavy topic. But a few hours of actually discussing it was enough to shed a little light and provoke other suspicions, and that always gives doubts a better chance of being addressed, than not being discussed at all.

At the end of the day, I realized that that was what our field trip was all about. What started out as a simple agreement to rouse our interest in travel writing ended up as a day-long indulgence on things that stirred and challenged our curious brains.

The result is a memorable day of pop culture and literature, of Instagramming and jotting notes (just like we were back in college!), and of expanding our circle of comfort a wee bit bigger.

I think that makes the trip outside of QC worth it.

Monday, May 4, 2015

Falling for Jane the Virgin

It's been too long since I've written here. Never seemed to find that perfect intersection of "NON-WORK/CLIMBING TIME" and "INSPIRATION". Sure, sometimes, admittedly, there IS time...but it's impossible to push words out when it's the inspiration that's lacking, right? ;)

Fast forward to today and we recently discovered Jane the Virgin. Okay, disclaimer: If you're not into over-analyzing and prying into a girls' brain as she makes sense of life out of a telenovela-type TV show, then stop reading right now.




But Jane entered our lives unexpectedly. Those who know me know that I hardly watch TV. We have a TV in our bedroom that I clumsily operate on a very occasional basis. When Miel is out of town, the TV never goes on. The last time I touched the remote control was over a month ago because I wanted to listen to music, and streaming a YouTube video on it was my only way of getting on-demand music (I'm no Spotify Premium user).

Ah, back to Jane. So it's a sitcom that apparently started airing in the US about a year ago, and we got our hands on the first eight episodes. I won't get into too much detail about the show because that can be easily researched, but what one needs to know is the premise of how Jane is this Latina daughter of a single mom who had her life setup "according to plan". She was perfectly on track in her life, about to finish with college (with a very-practical teaching degree) and with a boyfriend who loves her (and they were going towards the next steps of engagement > marriage > family), UNTIL she was accidentally inseminated with a rich (hot) guy's sample, thus making her a pregnant virgin. So the premise is pretty telling of how ridiculously funny some parts of the show can be (come on, accidentally, artificially inseminated?!)

Maybe it's how light-hearted the show is. Maybe it's how adorable the rich (hot) guy is. Maybe I'm relating to Jane's passion for writing which I (somehow, sometimes) have and never pursued. Maybe all the pregnancy worries makes me reflect about my own decisions of having a baby. Maybe I'm overwhelmed with "real-world" problems and the show's a perfect break off it.

Maybe -- and most likely -- it's just the typical effect of TV shows where I enjoy living vicariously through the characters, knowing that I'll never have that kind of life, yet still trying to draw inspiration and lessons from what they're experiencing...YES...while being fully aware that I'm trying to learn from people in a TV show even though I'm in the real world. Hahahahaha.

Nonetheless, it provides a good escape. Jane's a nice female character and I find her drive, enthusiasm and positivity as awesome traits to aspire to. She's (Gina Rodriguez) probably the first actress I started to follow on Instagram and it's cool how you can do that now with celebrities you like, and you get to see them "behind the scenes" and what they do outside the show (darn, that statement makes me feel so old!)

But it's so true, how media and access to information is so different now. Because I of course googled the rich (hot) guy on the show, and learned that the actor is Justin Baldoni, and he was apparently more of a filmmaker than an actor before Jane the Virgin, and that he had this wedding proposal video to his girlfriend that went viral a few years back, and that we share the exact same birth date (YEP, down to the year boys and girls!), and he follows the Bahai faith. And now I'm googling about the Bahai faith, and again I'm learning something new outside the world of Christianity that I was fully brought up in...

So if good role models, open-mindedness, honest conversations and feel-good-vibes are the measure, I'd put Jane the Virgin up there with my favorite TV shows.

And Jane, come on, JUST MARRY RAFAEL!!!!!!! (Sorry, we're just on Season 01, Episode 16).